Matt and I have never been very into Valentine's day. Sure, we have gone to dinner or to see a movie but we have always viewed it more as a Hallmark holiday where people are encouraged to spend reckless amounts of money on unnecessary stuff. Married for 8 1/2 years, two kids and an intense job life, later however, have encouraged us to use Valentine's day as a reminder to appreciate and celebrate the one we love. Not to replace everyday affection and appreciation but just to remind us that thoughtful gift giving is more about giving a piece of yourself than consuming commodities.
And this Valentine's day, I received a most wonderful and beautiful gift. My engagement ring and wedding band were passed down to me from Matt's mother's mother. I have loved these rings for their history and family significance. I have felt very honored wearing the rings of a strong woman I never had the pleasure to meet but have heard so much about. I have often looked at those rings on very ordinary days and wondered about the everyday life of the woman who wore them before me. 60+ years of living and use, however, have worn those rings down and they cracked. Not wanting to risk ultimately destroying the rings by repairing and continuing to wear them, I retired those symbols of love and commitment some time last year. Below is my Valentine' day gift for this year: a new engagement ring/wedding band. Not to replace my family heirloom but to continue what they symbolize; everlasting commitment, honesty, love and devotion. Thanks, babe, I love it!